Part Three: The new “How to Tend and Befriend Conflict” series. If you think you know how to deal with conflict, think again.

A kangaroo figurine is punching a doll figurine to show conflict.
A kangaroo figurine is punching a doll figurine to show conflict.


Part Two: The new “How to Tend and Befriend Conflict” series. If you think you know how to deal with conflict, think again.

A lit match with a rainbow flame
A lit match with a rainbow flame


Part One: The new “How to Tend and Befriend Conflict” series. If you think you know how to deal with conflict, think again.

Volcano with rainbow multun lava.
Volcano with rainbow multun lava.


A therapist explains how to distinguish between the two

Person in a dark background with a cobalt blue light on their face, looking despondently at the camera.
Person in a dark background with a cobalt blue light on their face, looking despondently at the camera.
Image: Kyle Cleveland/Unsplash


These 3 Harmful Personas Block Resilience

Person’s hands holding a black face mask over a blurred orange and teal background.
Person’s hands holding a black face mask over a blurred orange and teal background.
Image: John Noonan | Unsplash


There’s a good reason why “Think happy thoughts” or “Just get over it” doesn’t work for some types of of trauma, like moral injury and other forms of adversity.

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Weltschmerz describes the gut punch we get from realizing that the world keeps falling short of our expectations. What this means for your mental health.

Portrait of a woman leaning on the window at blue hour.
Portrait of a woman leaning on the window at blue hour.
Image: @nelsonmaart via Twenty20


The everyday magic of noticing in a society consumed by distraction and productivity.

Maurice Sendak’s classic illustration: “Everyone should be quiet near a little stream and listen” from the children’s book Open House for Butterflies by Ruth Krauss.
Maurice Sendak’s classic illustration: “Everyone should be quiet near a little stream and listen” from the children’s book Open House for Butterflies by Ruth Krauss.
Illustration by Maurice Sendak in Open House for Butterflies by Ruth Krauss.


Turns out humans are designed for it through the “diver’s reflex”.

Woman in a bathing suit swimming in the ocean, about to push through to the surface. Light is pouring in.
Woman in a bathing suit swimming in the ocean, about to push through to the surface. Light is pouring in.
Image: Jeremy Bishop/Unsplash


Surprising ways the ‘yuck factor’ affects our brains

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Michele DeMarco

Award-winning writer, therapist, clinical ethicist, and researcher specializing in moral injury. I talk about the stuff many won’t. micheledemarco.com

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